A short one for you today… I’m giving a leadership workshop this afternoon for a charity – Magic Breakfast, they’re brilliant, please do check them out – so thought I’d share with you one of the coaching exercises I have planned for them. The workshop is around improving connection and self-worth, something I’m sure we could all, always, do with a bit more of.
Grab a pen and paper or open up a word doc and lets go…
This exercise targets self-criticism, and aims to help us re-pattern our thoughts by finding positive thoughts to replace the more negative ones we may have. The issue with self-criticism is that if we constantly tell ourselves we’re not good at something or we’re unworthy or we always fail, that thought becomes like a mantra to us – even if it’s not true, our brain believes it is because it’s heard it so many times. And then of course we look for situations in our lives that will re-affirm these negative, critical beliefs about ourselves and it becomes a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy, built on a foundation of low self-worth. In order to build a better foundation and improve self worth, we need to make sure we have some different, more positive and supportive thoughts for ourselves. And who better to go to for support and love and positivity than your best mate?
Exercise: What Would Your Best Friend Say?
Write a paragraph to yourself as written by your closest friend. Answer these questions:
What one word or phrase best describes me? What do you think is my greatest attribute? What do you value most about me?
Really think deeply about what they would say. Be honest, don’t be humble. Be your own best mate.
For extra points, forward this to your closest friends and do it with them!
Would love to hear how you get on, do drop a comment below and let me know.
Have a beautiful week
Lily x